Showing posts with label love languages. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love languages. Show all posts
Saturday, June 2, 2012
In His Time
I LOVE how God appoints exact people and exact minutes, down to the second into our lives! I went to a potluck at the park today and sat with the same couple of people the whole time and NEVER would I have known that the last 15 minutes of the day (when I finally didn't rush out of there, but relaxed)...would be exactly the time and one-on-one listening a lady needed! Thank you God for relaxing me and teaching me how to listen. Thank you for her honesty and open heart to seek you in this difficult time. It is a time like this that makes me so excited that I do this blog because I forget what a passion and joy it stirs in me to encourage a marriage! Thank you God for today...every day is a gift that you've been given, live the most of your life every minute you're in it...Lord, I lift her up to you and thank you for my forwardness to lift her up to you in prayer because YOU are the provider and the constant in our lives. I love you Lord!!!!! John 15:16
Sunday, May 22, 2011
Don't forget to say "I Love You"
Remember the 5 Love Languages? Well, if you've never heard of that book, you better find it real quick and read it! I read this book nearly a decade ago and the simplicity of it applies to everyday life and to every person you love. People need to "hear" I love you in 5 different ways and they way you need to be loved may not be the way everyone around you needs to be loved so they may not feel your love even though YOU think you are overflowing with it. I called my Dad about a week ago, out of the blue, and let him know how thankful I am for the loyalty he has created among his children and what a special bond we have even though we may not always act like it. I could genuinely feel, even over the phone, that this was a screaming I LOVE YOU to my Daddy! This made me feel all the more special in return because I feel like I FINALLY figured that man out!!!!!! SHHH, don't tell him, but I think I might finally have his number:) Figure out someone special's love language today, you'll be glad you did and you won't even realize how easy it is to be a Bride of Christ to them without effort! Have a wonderful Memorial Day Weekend with family and friends and remember the reason we celebrate this beloved holiday. Psalm 16:9
Monday, January 18, 2010
For Better or For Worse
When we get married, the majority of us who don't create our own vows, hear a list like the following:
"for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health"
To me that means we will most likely face all of those extreme opposite situations and everything in between. There is no way a person can stay the exact same person having gone through all these extreme experiences, highs and lows, but the one thing that should remain conisistent is our love and loyalty because the end of that long list is ...till death do us part! So many people I hear say, well he or she changed and they are not who I married so I have fallen out of love...those FEELINGS are not the vows we took when we married! Yes, it takes a lot of work, but if we focus on these vows more every day of our married life, we would not be swept away at the first sight of what we think is greener pasture. And make sure you are nurturing your relationship with the Lord even better since He comes before your spouse and will only make "working on your relationship with your spouse" SO much easier!
The following thoughts are what brought this idea to mind, so please ponder it with me:
What is the difference between a couple who is married, treats each other poorly, has a shelter, a spouse to live with, enough money for all their needs and a car to get around in whenever they need run somewhere
vsa couple who is married, has a loving companionship, is homeless, has no vehicle and no consistent shelter, yet still remains to do all they can to get back on their feet financially?
I hope you can see the difference with me. Especially during these tough economic times, people are having to cut back on those "things" that the first couple had to keep them busy and so now there is more focus on the time and love and companionship...When we get married, we need to respect and love and cherish our spouse no matter what changes in life...for Better or for Worse. That love and respect will help us endure during these "worse" times that a lot of us might be facing right now until we get back to the "better" again. Matthew 19:1-12
Pictured above is a past "better" time and cheesy things like this are what get us through
our "worse" times, laughter makes our hearts grow fonder!
Monday, January 11, 2010
ToBeABride Hit the Road Again!
Bridal Shows now officially hold a precious place in my heart. If you missed out on the stories from the 1st Bridal Show in September, read them at ToBeABride Hit the Road.
Below are stories from yesterday's Great Show in Santa Barbara! Enjoy and please pray for these stories with me.
A sweet young Christian woman is engaged to an Agnostic, but he is not holding her back from her attending church, bible study, values etc so she wants to continue praying for him and marry him anyways. I gave her the book "Loving Your Husband" and reminded her it is not going to be easy.
A lady who has never been married herself, dropped by and felt it heavy on her heart that she give "The 5 Love Languages" to her Agnostic landlord. She says he is a gentle personality who is always trying to figure out how to get along better with his spouse. Let's pray this book helps out his marriage as well as enlightens him about Jesus!
A very energetic precious lady wants her marriage to be blessed and wants to do everything right in God's eyes and she is so thankful that her fiance is like minded. She was so excited to take the Workbook for "Before You Say I Do" so that they could focus on what is most important in these last days before their wedding...knowing that it's still not too late to pray and evaluate any issues that come up in conversation because of this study they will do together.
A fellow vendor stopped by and mentioned that she and her husband have been needing a retreat to go to and that they are definitely going to see about attending "Weekend to Remember." I was given several flyers for the Weekend to Remember and if you sign up through the following group, you will receive a substantial discount:
www.familylife.com/groups/feltes
I was encouraged several times as well with the following story and statements. Thank you, I am loving this ministry so much:
"Thanks for doing this."
"There should be more booths like this."
"This is what's most important isn't it."
One young couple had the absolute sweetest spirits about them...they are going to have such a sweet blessed marriage. They didn't need to stop, but it was so great to sit there and enjoy their smiles and love...Jesus poured out of their hearts by just having them stand to talk with me for a few short minutes...thank you for stopping!
One gentleman came to the booth late in the day and seemed to have gotten stopped in his tracks, turned back, took a deep breath and smiled before sharing the following:
His fiance got food poisoning and she couldn't make it, but really wanted the info from the show. He agreed to go, but knew he was going to have a hard time figuring out what he should do while he was there, but he said as soon as he saw the ToBeABride booth, he knew that this was the reason he was supposed to come to the show!
Just remember...there is so much more to marriage beyond that awaiting wedding day and hopefully you are preparing your life for the MOST IMPORTANT Wedding Day of ALL! John 3:16
Below are stories from yesterday's Great Show in Santa Barbara! Enjoy and please pray for these stories with me.
A sweet young Christian woman is engaged to an Agnostic, but he is not holding her back from her attending church, bible study, values etc so she wants to continue praying for him and marry him anyways. I gave her the book "Loving Your Husband" and reminded her it is not going to be easy.
A lady who has never been married herself, dropped by and felt it heavy on her heart that she give "The 5 Love Languages" to her Agnostic landlord. She says he is a gentle personality who is always trying to figure out how to get along better with his spouse. Let's pray this book helps out his marriage as well as enlightens him about Jesus!
A very energetic precious lady wants her marriage to be blessed and wants to do everything right in God's eyes and she is so thankful that her fiance is like minded. She was so excited to take the Workbook for "Before You Say I Do" so that they could focus on what is most important in these last days before their wedding...knowing that it's still not too late to pray and evaluate any issues that come up in conversation because of this study they will do together.
A fellow vendor stopped by and mentioned that she and her husband have been needing a retreat to go to and that they are definitely going to see about attending "Weekend to Remember." I was given several flyers for the Weekend to Remember and if you sign up through the following group, you will receive a substantial discount:
www.familylife.com/groups/feltes
I was encouraged several times as well with the following story and statements. Thank you, I am loving this ministry so much:
"Thanks for doing this."
"There should be more booths like this."
"This is what's most important isn't it."
One young couple had the absolute sweetest spirits about them...they are going to have such a sweet blessed marriage. They didn't need to stop, but it was so great to sit there and enjoy their smiles and love...Jesus poured out of their hearts by just having them stand to talk with me for a few short minutes...thank you for stopping!
One gentleman came to the booth late in the day and seemed to have gotten stopped in his tracks, turned back, took a deep breath and smiled before sharing the following:
His fiance got food poisoning and she couldn't make it, but really wanted the info from the show. He agreed to go, but knew he was going to have a hard time figuring out what he should do while he was there, but he said as soon as he saw the ToBeABride booth, he knew that this was the reason he was supposed to come to the show!
Just remember...there is so much more to marriage beyond that awaiting wedding day and hopefully you are preparing your life for the MOST IMPORTANT Wedding Day of ALL! John 3:16
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
ToBeABride Hit the Road!
I have to start this off by thanking my wonderful "Fair Friend" connection who made this all possible, God works in mysterious ways and according to HIS purpose...Romans 8:28:) I had the opportunity to take the ToBeABride.com Blog on the road and have a booth at a Bridal Show in Santa Barbara this last Sunday. And just how he likes it, Satan was trying to tear me down and make me doubt myself during the whole drive there and boy did God step right in and blow him away ALL day long! The booth consisted of a banner stating "ToBeABride.com: Live your life as a Bride to both your husband and Jesus Christ...You'll be glad you did!" and about 30 or so sample books to show women's, men's, general and pre-marital perspectives. I have been building an inventory since I started the blog so that I can have them to be given away and this was definitely a place to do it! I gave books away to engaged men, engaged women, mothers & in-laws and even some who weren't related to a "Bridal Show" situation at all, but God led them to the booth that day! The following are several stories from my day at the Bridal Show and please check back now and then to see if I added anymore stories because if I forget any by the time I post this, I'll just add them on. Please enjoy and provide comments wherever the spirit leads you. I love you all and am so thankful for how God is using this Blog for ALL OF US to encourage each other along life's roads.
The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
A gentleman walked up to the booth and was looking at the books and gasped before he said, "Oh, The 5 Love Languages, that book saved my marriage." As we continued to talk, he shared how he and his wife have passed the book on to several other married couples who they feel the book has done the same for them and he even recalled one couple getting REMARRIED as a result! God, THANK YOU for using this book to touch so many marriages!
That is the point of this blog is to encourage each other and pass on ways that we can keep our marriages ALIVE and CONNECTED and following God's plan for our lives by remaining with the one He chose for us to share His roads with. Each of us can touch someone else by sharing how a book worked in our lives and these one on one heart to heart conversations share our passion for how sacred marriage is to each of us. Don't hold back if you think you have a story that can help someone else!
Wild at Heart by John Eldredge
This was the MOST commented on book during the whole day. You'd think that the women would be the talkers, but actually the men shared how touched they were all day long and especially by this book! One gentleman was at the booth with his fiance and mother/in-law and he noticed this book. He mentioned to the ladies that a friend had told him what a great book it was, so I gave it to him after he promised to read it. I gave away four of this book that day and each time I shared my husband's point of view on this book, it melted every single guy. When my husband first read this book years ago, he called me and said, "If you want to understand me, read this book called Wild at Heart."
Another Mother-in-law was at the show and has been praying for her engaged daughter and her fiance non-stop. Her daughter is letting her know how tired she is of hearing, "Have you prayed about that?" and so the mother has been trying to find other ways to let her know her daughter that she cares. She mentioned that she knows her future son-in-law really likes to read and glanced down at the books and thought out loud, "Maybe that's what I need to do is try to find something for him since he's the reader." I immediately picked up Wild at Heart and handed it to her, again sharing my husband's story. She was so excited to get that book and send it to her future son-in-law.
Romancing Your Husband by Debra White Smith
This is the cutest story! A couple walked by the booth and were standing on the corner talking when the man turned and was looking at the books on the corner of the table where Romancing Your Husband happened to be placed. He was definitely eyeing that book then he walked away for a moment. As soon as he walked away I teased the lady, "Quick, hurry, he's gone, grab that book. I'm telling ya, he was looking at that book right before he left, he'd want you to have it." She began laughing hysterically and I convinced her that I was serious and she could have the book for FREE, so she finally took it and placed it in her bag just before he returned. I'd LOVE to hear the results of that book, I hope they have fun with it AFTER their big day!
God's Word!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hugs Bible
There was a sweet lady who stopped by the booth and mentioned that she used to have a Bible, but doesn't really know where it is now. She was thumbing through the Hugs Bible when I mentioned that I'd love for her to have that Bible if she promises to read it every now and then and she agreed. She was so thankful, it was precious!
God's Word!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Women of Faith Bible
I only left my booth two times on Sunday, once to use a restroom and once to say a quick comment to the photographer across the way. When I glanced back at the booth, there was a young lady standing there looking at the books and I didn't want to miss anyone, so I returned. Thank you God for prompting me that she was an important person to return to! I gave her my normal comment, "I have a blog that encourages marriages and these are a sample of books that can help us along the way." I got nothing, but she was intently thumbing through the books and gazing intently. I asked, "Are you engaged?" No. "Are you dating?" Finally a smile, but a response, "No, none of that, I'm just working here today." Well, this just happened to be in the last 45 minutes of the show when nearly every vendor at their booths didn't pay hardly any attention because they were restless to pack up and leave. Thank you Lord for giving me patience this day and being attentive because where the conversation led next was unbelievable! I asked, "Have you ever owned a Bible?" and she responded "I've never even gone to church before or anything, I don't know about any of this." So I began to share about a relationship with Jesus Christ and kept going from there...she was SOOOO open and just kept listening and making eye contact and just thirsting for more. I told her I would love for her to have that Bible if she promised me she'd read it every now and then, but she said she didn't think she would...so I told her I'd love to make that sacrifice and chance that she would.
OH WHAT A DAY, THIS IS THE DAY THAT THE LORD HAS MADE, I WILL REJOICE AND BE GLAD IN IT, THIS IS THE DAY, THIS IS THE DAY, THAT THE LORD HAS MADE!
The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
A gentleman walked up to the booth and was looking at the books and gasped before he said, "Oh, The 5 Love Languages, that book saved my marriage." As we continued to talk, he shared how he and his wife have passed the book on to several other married couples who they feel the book has done the same for them and he even recalled one couple getting REMARRIED as a result! God, THANK YOU for using this book to touch so many marriages!
That is the point of this blog is to encourage each other and pass on ways that we can keep our marriages ALIVE and CONNECTED and following God's plan for our lives by remaining with the one He chose for us to share His roads with. Each of us can touch someone else by sharing how a book worked in our lives and these one on one heart to heart conversations share our passion for how sacred marriage is to each of us. Don't hold back if you think you have a story that can help someone else!
Wild at Heart by John Eldredge
This was the MOST commented on book during the whole day. You'd think that the women would be the talkers, but actually the men shared how touched they were all day long and especially by this book! One gentleman was at the booth with his fiance and mother/in-law and he noticed this book. He mentioned to the ladies that a friend had told him what a great book it was, so I gave it to him after he promised to read it. I gave away four of this book that day and each time I shared my husband's point of view on this book, it melted every single guy. When my husband first read this book years ago, he called me and said, "If you want to understand me, read this book called Wild at Heart."
Another Mother-in-law was at the show and has been praying for her engaged daughter and her fiance non-stop. Her daughter is letting her know how tired she is of hearing, "Have you prayed about that?" and so the mother has been trying to find other ways to let her know her daughter that she cares. She mentioned that she knows her future son-in-law really likes to read and glanced down at the books and thought out loud, "Maybe that's what I need to do is try to find something for him since he's the reader." I immediately picked up Wild at Heart and handed it to her, again sharing my husband's story. She was so excited to get that book and send it to her future son-in-law.
Romancing Your Husband by Debra White Smith
This is the cutest story! A couple walked by the booth and were standing on the corner talking when the man turned and was looking at the books on the corner of the table where Romancing Your Husband happened to be placed. He was definitely eyeing that book then he walked away for a moment. As soon as he walked away I teased the lady, "Quick, hurry, he's gone, grab that book. I'm telling ya, he was looking at that book right before he left, he'd want you to have it." She began laughing hysterically and I convinced her that I was serious and she could have the book for FREE, so she finally took it and placed it in her bag just before he returned. I'd LOVE to hear the results of that book, I hope they have fun with it AFTER their big day!
God's Word!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hugs Bible
There was a sweet lady who stopped by the booth and mentioned that she used to have a Bible, but doesn't really know where it is now. She was thumbing through the Hugs Bible when I mentioned that I'd love for her to have that Bible if she promises to read it every now and then and she agreed. She was so thankful, it was precious!
God's Word!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Women of Faith Bible
I only left my booth two times on Sunday, once to use a restroom and once to say a quick comment to the photographer across the way. When I glanced back at the booth, there was a young lady standing there looking at the books and I didn't want to miss anyone, so I returned. Thank you God for prompting me that she was an important person to return to! I gave her my normal comment, "I have a blog that encourages marriages and these are a sample of books that can help us along the way." I got nothing, but she was intently thumbing through the books and gazing intently. I asked, "Are you engaged?" No. "Are you dating?" Finally a smile, but a response, "No, none of that, I'm just working here today." Well, this just happened to be in the last 45 minutes of the show when nearly every vendor at their booths didn't pay hardly any attention because they were restless to pack up and leave. Thank you Lord for giving me patience this day and being attentive because where the conversation led next was unbelievable! I asked, "Have you ever owned a Bible?" and she responded "I've never even gone to church before or anything, I don't know about any of this." So I began to share about a relationship with Jesus Christ and kept going from there...she was SOOOO open and just kept listening and making eye contact and just thirsting for more. I told her I would love for her to have that Bible if she promised me she'd read it every now and then, but she said she didn't think she would...so I told her I'd love to make that sacrifice and chance that she would.
OH WHAT A DAY, THIS IS THE DAY THAT THE LORD HAS MADE, I WILL REJOICE AND BE GLAD IN IT, THIS IS THE DAY, THIS IS THE DAY, THAT THE LORD HAS MADE!
Sunday, April 26, 2009
Learning Love Languages!
If you haven't read the book "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman, I recommend it! I read it when we first got married and it's one of those I want to read again! It talks about the 5 languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch. I know that my language is time and boy did I get it last weekend! One of the events I work always falls on my birthday, so my husband decided to celebrate my life early and it was PERFECT! Every year for every celebration or holiday, my husband asks me what I want and I know husbands get mad when we say "Nothing," but mine finally got it! All I want is time with him! 
I am reading another book right now called "For Women Only" by Shaunti Feldhahn. It was recommended to me by a mentor and then my husband bought it for me at the "Weekend to Remember" marriage retreat! What a blessing this book has been and I hope my husband starts feeling the repercussions from it because I am learning that "Words of Affirmation" is his love language through RESPECT! Very Key:) FYI, There is also a book that has a similar cover by the same author that is called "For Men Only." They are both short, easy to read books. I Corinthians 16:6-7
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